2 days ago
Thursday, April 10, 2008
stupid fears
So I have a big problem that I worry about alot more than I should ever worry about something this stupid. Ever since I can remembered I have been concerned about my weight and for most of that time I had nothing to worry about. My biggest fear is being over weight I weigh myself sometimes everyday when I am at my worst. I have been trying to correct this problem especially lately now that we have been talking about starting a family. I am ashamed to say I have actually put it off because of this fear. I start to think about all the weigh I will gain and it makes me physically ill which is so shallow. See this is the problem though I have a skinny family and comments were alwas made when I was growing up about the heavier people we would see or pass on the street. As I am now dealing with these same feelings I think about how I want my kids to grow up viewing people of different sizes as well as themselves. I almost look at heavy set girls that carry themselves with confidence with jealousy because I can gain a pound and want to hide in sweats and a hoodie for the rest of my life. I try to buy figure fitting clothes so that certain people in my life don't make comments about my weigh or think that I have gained weight. I don't want my kids especially my girls growing up afraid to live life to its fullest no matter what their size just as long as they are healthy. This sounds stupid but I am hoping by admitting that I have a problem will help me to get over this. Thanks for listening and if you have any advice I'm listening.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
9 comments:
I married into a family of girls that weigh barely 100 lbs and just over 5 feet and have felt like a giant for the last couple of years. I say this so you can see that I understand where you are coming from with the worries about weight. The best advice I can give you is to pass on advice my OBGYN gave me. It was that if you worry about your weight too much when you are pregnant or nursing, you can hurt your child. I know that weight is an issue and I can see where you are coming from, but remember that gaining weight is beautiful when you are doing it for a wonderful reason and the changes that come with that might not make you look exactly how you want, but their worth it. This conclusion took me months to get to after getting a stomach full of stretch marks from my son moving into a completely different position in the last month of my pregnancy. Let me know if you ever need to talk more about this or anything else! And remember, you are beautiful!
Natalie, Hopefully when you're pregnant your ideas about weight will change a little like mine did. I was really worried about how much weight I would gain when I got pregnant too, but once it happened all I wanted was a healthy baby so I ate all the healthy food I could get and walked every day. I was happy to gain 27 pounds and after the baby came I walked a lot and every pound plus a few extras came off even though I was still eating a lot (thanks to breastfeeding). Anyway, try to think in terms of health not weight and you'll look and feel fabulous. By the way you look great..STOP worrying (that only causes stress and that's not good).
Alright I think that you need a good smack up side the head! no you know that I love you to death but you have got to leave your past in the past and laugh when members of your family make these comments. Your are so georgeous and I mean that with all my heart. During my pregnancy you commented more than once how little I was and you saw me the week before I delivered and I almost gained 50 pounds. Natalie with out trying I lost 40 in 4 weeks and then 5 more in another couple weeks now I am still working on the last 5 pounds and reshaping a little but that is how it goes. everyone is different I got very few streatch marks and I honestly did not know that I could get any bigger I felt huge and honestly even though to everyone else says you look little you feel huge!! alright I am not being very encouraging but you feel huge and then you feel your baby move and it makes every seond and pound worth it when you deliver a healthy baby!!! You are sexy and I know that your husband thinks that and Natalie HE IS THE ONLY ONE THAT MATTERS!!! you will feel better with your self when you hide your scale and stop counting calories for a while( no more crackers and string cheese)!!! Sorry this is the longest post every but my friend had a hard time getting pregnant because she was so little and took in so few calories. So make sure to watch that! My sister has had four kids and she looks better now then she ever has that is saying a lot because she was one of those tiny weber cheerleaders. now she is toned and in great shape. After you have a kido you can be back down to the same georgeous shape. I love you a ton and would honestly kill to look like you!! with your cute butt in a non lesbian way!! he he Alright I am calling you this week and we are getting together again aight!!
Of course you know that this post strikes a special chord with me. I have known you at your 'biggest' and your 'smallest'. I can tell you that no matter your size, you are beautiful. I know your fam and I've heard the comments. You also know that I have always been a bit chunky. I gained 60 lbs with Beck. I got stretch marks. And you know what? I have never been happier. Physically speaking, your goal should be to be healthy. Depriving your body of nutrients it needs on purpose is a dumb thing to do. I would rather see muscle than bone. You need to seriously think about this. You should contemplate the most important aspect fo this scenario, which is the spiritual. We are put on this Earth to have a family. It is a very serious thing that you have put off having a child for fear of weight gain. We are in this state temporarily. Yes we should definitly take the best possible care of our bodies while we are here. But, Nat, just think deeply about your purpose. You are a natural mother. You will be a phenominal mom. These feelings running through your mind are not put there by God, I can tell you that for sure. I hope that by getting this fear out, you can overcome it. And by the way, you say that you look at girls that are confident and feel jealous...Well I can guarantee that there are girls our there that look at you with jealousy and see a beautiful and confident woman. I love you unconditionally and hope you know that I am always here for you. I hope this wasn't too direct. It takes a strong person to admit their fears and an even stronger one to face them!
Hi Nat! Jana here :)
Hope you don't mind me reading your blog- I found it through Brittanys...I can totally understand your feelings of not wanting to gain weight. I had just lost 65 lbs. and found out I was pregnant with Max. I had worked so hard to lose the weight and had the hardest time thinking about gaining weight. All I know is that I just had to put those feelings aside and let my body do what it had to do to grow a healthy baby. It is so worth it in the end- and I am happy to say I only have 5 more pounds to go :) I think back to before we had kids- and my happiness now can't even compare to then..it is amazing! Good Luck, and I will be thinking of you :)
Nat,
You have nothing to worry about. You will be very cute pregnant!
Sorry I totally screwed up my last post, but you are awesome and so cute! You are going to make a great mom!
Nat, you are super cute now and will be when pregnant. I have known you for years and understand your thoughts on weight etc. But you are getting better! And Matt loves you no matter what cause you are amazing! Love you tons! :D
Post a Comment